Are You Protecting Yourself or Your Relationship? Have you ever reacted to your partner in a way you later regretted? You may not have been trying to hurt your relationship. You may have been trying to protect yourself. Which Wolf Are You Feeding? When we feel hurt, rejected, threatened, betrayed, misunderstood or afraid, our nervous system can move quickly into protection. We may fight. We may blame. We may defend ourselves. We may criticize. We may withdraw. We may demand reassurance. We...

THE I + WE RELATIONSHIP™ How Two Different People Can Learn to Stay Themselves — And Stay Connected You love each other. So why can the things you need most from your relationship sometimes feel like the things your partner needs least? You want to talk. Your partner wants space. You want reassurance. Your partner wants trust. You experience closeness as love. Your partner may experience too much closeness as pressure. You reach for connection. They pull away. You pursue harder. They withdraw...

You Can Love Him Without Losing You What if becoming more yourself could actually make your relationship stronger? You love him. You want your relationship to work. But maybe you've noticed something: You are doing more and more to keep the relationship together. You start the conversations. You try to explain what is wrong. You ask him to open up. You try to understand his side. You try to help him understand yours. You give another chance. You try harder. And sometimes you wonder: “Why does...