Simone Merkl | Counsellor - In-Person & Online

How safety, trust and connection can create space for attraction to return. “Will I ever feel attracted to my partner again?” After an affair, this can be one of the hardest questions to ask. Sometimes attraction feels different because the relationship has been changed by hurt, broken trust, anger, fear or emotional distance. And sometimes what feels like a loss of attraction is also a relationship struggling under the weight of protection and disconnection. That doesn't mea

Moving Beyond Explanation and Justification Toward Understanding the Impact of Your Choices “I said I was sorry. What else am I supposed to do?” “I didn't mean for this to happen.” “I was unhappy in the marriage.” “I felt lonely.” “We had been disconnected for years.” “I never planned for it to go this far.” “I love my partner. I made a terrible mistake.” These statements may contain pieces of the truth. But after an affair, there is an important difference between explaining

Understanding the Search for Information, Reassurance and Safety After Betrayal “Why did you do it?” “When did it start?” “Where were you?” “Who knew?” “Was it really over?” “Are you telling me everything?” “Did you love them?” “Do you still think about them?” “Why didn’t I know?” And sometimes the same question comes back again. You may know you've already asked it. Your partner may have already answered it. Yet something inside you still needs to ask. You may even wonder: W