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Treatments and Pricing

 
Counselling Sessions

Individual Session 

50-minute session

$120 + GST

 

Couple Session

50-minute session 

$140 + GST

Multi-Day Sessions

 

 

Do you live out of town or do you feel your marriage needs intensive multi-day sessions? Do you need emotional healing after a physical or emotional affair?

Multi-day sessions may be a helpful option for you to consider. I enable healthy respect and closeness that helps nurture a deeper connection. The aim is to keep conflict discussions calm, learn to compromise, and overcome any gridlock concerns. I can guide you to develop your goals and learn to understand your partner's inner world.

Two Day Sessions Include:

 

Gottman Questionnaire and Resources

Emotionally Focused Resources

Relational Therapy Resources

Two individual sessions online or over the phone

Feedback and goal setting session

12 hours of intense therapy

Take home tools and support material

Highly skilled therapist

$3000 + GST 

Three Day Session includes:

Recommended for affair recovery or extra support

Gottman Questionnaire and Resources

Emotionally Focused Resources

Relational Therapy Resources

Two individual sessions online or over the phone

Feedback and goal setting session

18 hours of intense therapy

Take home tools and support material

Highly skilled therapist

$5000 + GST

 

Four Day Session includes:

Recommended for affair recovery or extra support

Gottman Questionnaire and Resources

Emotionally Focused Resources

Relational Therapy Resources

Two individual sessions online or over the phone

Feedback and goal setting session

24 hours of intense training can be 2 sessions for 2 days consecutive days or 4 consecutive sessions

Highly skilled therapist

$7000 + GST

 
Gottman, Relational Life & Emotionally Focused Therapy  

 

Merkl Marriage Counselling inspires you to build a strong foundation with attuning connection, trust, commitment, and safety. Research shows hot intimacy doesn't lead to secure love. Secure attachment leads to hot intimacy and to a love that lasts. Keep the romance alive with Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love with Sue Johnson, The Sound Relationship House with John & Julie Gottman and The Seven Diagnostic Lenses with Terry Real.

1. Recognize the Demon Dialogues

-find the bad guy, protest polka, freeze & flee

-self-protection versus learning to grow together  

2. Finding the Raw Spots

-find an awareness of one another's triggers

-calm trigger's & create a safe place

-attachment work

 

3. Revisiting a Rocky Moment

-learn to de-escalate 

-stop the blame game

-claim your moves

-claim your own feelings

-owning how you shape your partner's feelings

-sharing your own deeper, softer emotions

-standing together

 

4. Hold Me Tight Conversation

-discovering fears

-expressing needs

-positive affirmations

5. Forgiving Injuries

-six steps to forgiveness

-repair attempts

-healing injuries

6. Bonding Through Sex & Touch

-sealed off sex

-solace sex

-synchrony sex

7. Keeping Your Love Alive

-rituals of connection

-resilient relationship story

-attachment resolution

-future love story

-creating safety & emotional connection 

John & Julie Gottman's - Sound Relationship House

1. Create Shared Meaning

-build a shared sense of purpose. What is your mission & legacy?

2. Make Life Dreams Come True

-find ways to support each other's life goals & dreams

3. Manage Conflict

-accepting influence from your partner: be open to compromise

-discuss your problems: take turns listening to one another about perpetual issues

-practice self-soothing: keep yourself calm

4. The Positive Perspective

-a positive perspective occurs when the friendship of your marriage is strong

5. Turn Towards Instead of Away

-accept bids for emotional connection

6. Share Fondness & Admiration

-make deposits into the emotional bank account

7. Build Love Maps

-maintain awareness of your partner's world 

Gottman - Four Horsemen

How to Stop Them With Their Antidotes:

Criticism Antidote is Gentle Start up

Verbally attacking personality or character. or Talk about feelings using "I"                                                                            statements & express needs.

Contempt Antidote is Build Culture of Appreciation

Attacking sense of self with or Remind yourself of your partner's positive 

an intent to insult or abuse.      qualities & find gratitude for positive actions.

Defensiveness Antidote is Take Responsibility

Victimizing yourself to ward or Accept your partner's perspective & offer an 

off a perceived attack and         apology for any wrongdoing.

reverse the blame.

Stonewalling Antidote is Physiological Self-Soothing

Withdrawing to avoid conflict & or Take a break & spend time doing 

convey disapproval distance &       soothing & distracting. 

separation.

Terry Real's - "Us", Getting Past You & Me To Build A More Loving Relationship 

1. Relational Mindfulness

-shifting from your adaptive child to wise adult

-the art of "remember love"-recalling the person you're speaking to is someone you care about and that is the reason why you're speaking to make things better

-shifting from reactive to responsive

 

2. Identifying Your Desires & Articulating Your Feelings

-neither men nor women have "voice" in their relationships

-busting myths such as: "a good woman" should put her needs second to the needs of others

-"a strong man" has no emotional needs anyway

-identify & articulate your feelings

-distinguish between wants & needs

-know how and when to share (and when not)

3. The Art of Soft (Loving) Power

-how to stand up for yourself and cherish your partner in the same breath

-how our individualistic society limits us

-how to speak in a way that empowers both you and your partner

-answering the question: "what do you need from me in order to help you come through for me?"

4. The 3 phases of getting what you want in relationships

-respectfully communicating your needs

-Phase 1:Daring to rock the boat-asking for what you want

-Phase 2:Helping them win-teaching your partner how to be better

-being encourage, not discouraging

5. Shifting From Complaint to Request

-our brains are negatively biased: we notice what's wrong 

-every complaint has implicit within it a request

-how to switch from "this is what you've done wrong" to "this is what you could do that would be right."

-understanding: "You can express your negative feelings or you can work on the relationship, but you can't do both at the same time." 

 

6. The Repair Process

-all relationships are an endless dance of harmony, disharmony, and repair

-the shift from disharmony to repair is where all the skills come in

-how to speak your truth with love

-how to listen non-defensively & respond with savvy & generosity

 

7. Transmission/Reception Work

-once partner A give partner B what partner A has been asking for, does partner A receive it?

-it is easier & less vulnerable to complain than it is to open up & receive

-how to encourage rather than discourage your partner's progress

-celebrating the glass 15 percent full

-how to shift from attitude to gratitude

-daring to take yes for an answer    

Dr Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight - Seven Conversations For A Lifetime of Love

 
Speaking Engagements & Presentations

I am available to give presentations on a variety of subjects for groups or organizations in need of mental health awareness. I can customize my presentation on any topic that interests you.